Happy Thanksgiving!

People celebrate ‘Thanksgiving’ in so many different ways on several different days, such as ‘Pongal’ in South India to greeting and sharing with the natives by the pilgrims in North America. For us,  since the past 13 years, this has been a moment to offer a special prayer and thanks to all who made and continue to make our lives more blessed.

As always Shiv and I are very thankful and wish all you friends, well wishers and everyone who crossed our paths from the past to the present, as well as all our family members: immediate and extended a very ….

Rest In Peace, Dearest Gentle Friend

Though I am not new to receiving news of dearly departed, though I have lost grandparents from both sides with whom I made fond memories, nothing felt more like a rip in my heart than the news I received this morning.

A friend, a gentlest soul, who evokes memory of  manly-mirthful giggles, beautiful smile that comes from his eyes- even when in deep physical pain.

A man who most of the time talkes with the cigarette dangling from the corner of his mouth, talking to everyone fondly, disciplining with a smile, addressing even the office peons with fondness, addiction to coffee- not all kinds only the filter-decoction variety.

A man who would drive a pregnant friend all across the east corner of the city before driving himself to the west corner to his home even amidst excruciating pain of his own.

A man whose home was always open to all, whose wife always served food for all, whose heart always accepted all and whose first response to friend’s phone calls was always an ever ready, endearing and inviting ‘Sollunga’, meaning ‘yeah, tell me’- Made me feel like he was there for me every time and anytime I called him.

With a heavy heart, I am going to call his personal mobile one more time on Sunday (after giving his grieving family a day or two of privacy). I know someone will answer it for sure, but it will not be the ‘Sollunga’-  NEVER EVER!

2 Birds In Hand, 3 On Tree

My son is just poised to make the first important decision in his adult life. He applied to 6 med-schools, all south of the border, for his next step in education.  With God’s abundant blessing he has received admissions-letters from 2 med-schools, awaiting response from 3 more and handled 1 rejection all with grace that puts me to shame.

Sometime within the next few days he has to decide what path he would take…….Big decision to make and it is his to make, For the first time (among many more to come), I am on the sidelines: waiting, watching, praying, hoping ummmmmmmm & the hardest part- keeping my head in but hands off

Stop The Seasons…Post By Michael

Stop the seasons, I just want summer.

 High achievers learn to do what others can’t do. They set themselves high goals and develop a belief system that nothing is impossible. They gather supporters to help achieve their goals, those supporters are inspired by the “can do” attitude especially when they think “it cant be done”.

Of course there are physical limits to every scenario. Some high achievers never stumble into them and so their belief is never challenged. Sometimes things change. Resources are removed, people leave, health deteriorates, and suddenly the impossible becomes unattainable. This is a shock to the high achiever.

The concept of working within limits is completely foreign. To cut back feels like failure. To design a job around available resources feels like a cage. It is normal for organisations to cut back resources and still expect staff to do the same job. This causes staff burnout and churn which continues until expectations finally meet reality. This comes after much money is lost, many staff are lost, and market share is lost. Management is often very slow to act. Staff caught in the middle of these cut backs have three choices – try and achieve impossible goals and burnout, leave before they burn out, or cut back voluntarily to do only what is possible.

The third option is very difficult for high achievers, very difficult to explain to management who have no real idea of the practicalities of their cut backs, and will wind up with management blaming staff for their inability to do the job rather than accept responsibility themselves for removing resources. The glimmer of hope is if a staff member can find a way to communicate and educate management to accept real outcomes and understand the consequences of expecting unrealistic ones.

This puts the onus back on staff, which is unfair since they didn’t do the cutbacks and weren’t involved in the decision making. And so even staff who may be able to communicate and educate, may choose not to try. Depending on employment opportunities staff will put their head down and do the least they can to keep their job, thus creating spectacular inefficiencies. Funny to watch organizations go through the cycles of growth, maturity, decline, cut back. Funny because they don’t learn. Funny because management are surprised by change. Funny because every young manager thinks they will be the one to defy physics.

But, it is not funny that good people get sick, sacked, and saddened by managers who can’t calibrate and simply make reactive cuts and load burdens onto their staff. I watched it too often and I suppose that’s a reason I got out of organizations to consult to them – I hoped to communicate and educate from outside the organization, align management with the cycles or seasons of our physical universe, and work with cycles rather than react to them.

And I fundamentally believe that when management and staff work together to manage seasons and work with them, everyone can enjoy their work or job, everyone can experience satisfaction and personal growth, everyone can achieve good results!

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Mia’s note: If MCT’s wisdom doesn’t hold good at your workplace, try this…

Dearest JMS


For over a decade now, every week we chat and you walk me through my every fear and wipe away my every tear. You are the best friend I have wished for and the best sister I could have wished for! May God Bless You Abundantly!